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Ten Common Notions People Have About Other People

Human beings are often quick to pass judgment, to brand people, to form notions about them without ever giving them a chance to prove otherwise. In a world where every single person considers himself/herself as the centre stage, here are some common notions we come across in daily life.

1)      If someone is ridiculing India and Indian practices, he must be one of those wannabe Hollywood fanatics who is a tool at heart-

Have you stopped to consider for even a moment that he might actually be genuinely concerned about the country and wants to see it rise from the abyss it currently lies in? Criticizing things may not be the answer but then, neither is appreciation of things that don’t deserve it.

2)      If someone does not reply to your SMS or call, he/she is ignoring you intentionally-

Well, this notion might be true if you are the ‘irritating-as-hell’ kind, but if not, there is no reason to assume that you are being ignored, for in the speed of the modern world, it is easy to forget. Oh, and by-the-way, if you are a stalker, I suggest you be prepared to hear a mouthful of abuses sometime soon.

3)      A good-natured person is always naive and can be exploited-

Contrary to beliefs, good-natured people have an icy resolute determination. You would be naïve to think you can just take advantage of them and get away with it. Because folks, they may not be willing to get their hands dirty, but as has been proven again and again, Karma is a bitch and it may just return to bite you in the ass someday!

4)      If a girl is over-friendly with many guys, she must be a you-know-what-

Guys already know what I am talking about. Girls, eavesdrop on your friends sometime, you will know what I am talking about. So, for your kind information, no she is not! She is just genuinely friendly by nature. Can’t you just accept the fact? And what about you? When you are flirting with numerous girls simultaneously, does that not make you a something-like-that too?

When people run in circles, it's a very very mad world

PS: Dear Such-girls, the guys you are hanging with are thinking the exact same thing. They are no exception.

5)      No matter what, as long as it isn’t you, the guy that your friend/ex-girlfriend/ crush/some-hot-chick is dating must be either a schmuck or a dickhead!

Well, let’s give the benefit of the doubt to you here, because there is no shortage of pigs out there, and because ‘being the better man’ has never been the strongest quality of men. But, an unbiased and unprejudiced judgment on your part would be the key to how your own future endeavors shape up. Remember, acceptance is the first and last step to closure.

6)      The guy you’ve been seeing, he must have some deep dark secret, that you wish to unravel-

Don’t you think somewhere inside him, he has that ‘repressed eternal love’ that you seek? Don’t you think if you persist, someday he will open his heart out to you and tell you, what you wanted to hear all along? You may just be in for a surprise, for a break-up may be faster on the cards than the love manifestation. Free advice: Stick to those who show it on the outside than those who might never have had it.

7)      One who is not the best is just like the rest-

You don’t have to get hired by Facebook, or earn an 80 lac odd package to be successful. Someone who earns a modest 5 lac per annum, but stands up for his values, cares about his family, and has his heart in the right place is infinitely more successful than say a business tycoon of a multi-billion-dollar company, who is a womanizer and is morally flawed.

8)      People are always out to betray you, to play with your emotions-

The thing is life in this twenty-first century is dominated by three things- motives, priorities, and destiny. Now, because people have so many different priorities these days, you are bound to get caught up in cross hairs sooner or later. Yes, there is a big herd of betrayers out there, but not everyone has the intentions of playing with your emotions.

9)      Looks are the sole criterion for judgment of people around you-

That is as shallow as it gets. Beauty never resides on the face; it always lies in the heart. Being mean and rude to people just because they don’t have charms to compare to yours is an appalling gesture on your part. Try to look beyond the physical perceptions, and you will see a whole new world out there.

10)   When people have wronged you once, they shall never change-

Everyone deserves a second chance. Even Harry Potter offered Lord Voldemort a chance for salvation. It happens to the best of us that we fail the people around us, we fail ourselves, but if one has true mettle, he/she will rise to the occasion and set it all right. For, life is a short river, and we need as many true friends as we can to sail the boat.   

Pawns

God is shrewder than you give him credit for. Let me show you how.

Very long time ago, out of sheer  boredom, God rose forth and carved the universe out of thin air. He looked around, but he was not yet amused. He then went on, and gave life to a species known as human beings. He kept a close watch on the proceedings as people lived in peace, discovering and exploring the secrets of this mystical world, called the earth. It still wasn’t enough for his amusement, so God went one step further and he gave the human beings his latest invention, the heart. In other words, he gave them emotions, he gave them love. And that is where our story begins.

Life is but a game of chess, and you are but a pawn.

Love was a transcedental feeling. It gave human beings a sense of purpose, a branding of being different, it taught them how to care for one another. But as people fell in love, they also began to learn how to hate. Men bickered amongst themselves, and women conspired against one another. Envy, distrust, malice began to emerge from the shadows, as innumerable wars were fought, and countless lives were sacrificed. People experienced pain, they experienced grief.

Coupled with the prowess of the brain, and the indecision of the heart, humans were now just pawns. Or more aptly nuclear bombs, waiting to be ticked off, waiting to be manipulated with. And, that is

Murderers - more common than you would think!

exactly what happened, as men and women toyed with the emotions of other men and women, driving them to extents they had never been capable of. They killed cold-bloodedly, they tortured mercilessly, as mankind slowly drifted towards the veil of darkness, towards the very end. Soon enough, came a time when the world only had murderers and dacoits as its inhabitants. Some people still dared to be different, to stand up, but they were slaughtered down like guinea pigs. They fought amongst themselves, until not a man remained alive, until not a single soul survived!

To think that it all began with one heart, with the feeling of love! It was a stroke of genius, in one move, God had very conveniently designed for himself a game of chess. Only, there was to be no winner, for he had rigged the game to his own ends. He watched as his one invention drove the other to its demise. And then, out of sheer boredom, he again rose forth and carved out a new even more interesting game for himself.

My sister- my strength, my weakness!

This piece is for my beautiful sister, who has been an inspiration, a mentor, and my best friend for much of my twenty years of life.  

If I ever needed to, I would move mountains for you;

I would change the direction of rivers, if you wanted me to.

Because, you were there for me when I was down and dusted;

The prettiest woman alive!

You were there when I felt gutted.

You would laugh, when I laughed;

You would cry, when I cried.

You have been like a friend I’ve never had;

You have been like a mentor I’ve always had.

You give me the strength to fight, you inspire me to always be right;

Wherever I may be, you will always be in my sight.

We have shared some of the most beautiful moments in life;

We have survived amidst the harshest of currents, between all the strife.

Hence the truth be told;

My sister, you are my favorite person in this world! Behold!

Proposals!

Guy meets girl. Guy falls for the girl. Girl meanwhile is ignorant and falls for another guy, who in fact is after some other girl. The first guy proposes to the girl, exactly at the same time when the other girl has just rejected the other guy. Now, the first girl is confused- whether to say yes to a man she “only saw as a friend” or to wait for the other man who is heartbroken and in desperate need of her support.

You could easily be mistaken for thinking this is the script of some romantic drama, but as most of you would gladly attest- this, my friends, is exactly how our life unravels.

Love isn’t a myth. It is only elusive!

By design, men are bound to think ahead of time letting their imagination run wild with the best possible scenario, expecting everything to somehow miraculously work out for them. They will keep trying again and again, rejection after rejection, until the girl agrees or until they simply grow tired. On the other hand, women think of themselves as practical and scrutinize each and every decision of theirs beforehand. Thus, they keep rejecting man after man after man, until they grow tired themselves and invariably end up saying yes to men who are the least deserving. (They will not realize this until a few years down the line)

When a man thinks about proposing to a woman, declaring his profound love for her, there arise three possibilities-

  • He doesn’t mean it, he is only saying it to achieve his ends. (about sixty per cent)
  • He means it, but he doesn’t have the courage to tell her how he really feels. (thirty per cent – of this, only ten per cent are really in love, others only think they are)
  • He really means it, and he has the courage to tell it to her. (ten per cent)

Proposal lines that men come up with-

  • I know this may seem sudden, but believe me, from the moment I have laid my eyes upon yours, I have only thought about you and I shall continue thinking only about you until eternity.
  • I am not flawless, I have fallen for the wrong girls in the past. But, I am convinced I will never fall for a wrong person ever again. For, I have once and for all, fallen for you!
  • You have everything I do not. No one can understand me better than you do. No one can take care of me better than you do. No one can love me better than you do. You complete me.

Some of the most common excuses women have to offer, after a man’s proposal-

  • You are a dear friend. I just don’t feel that way about you.
  • I really like you, but I don’t think this is the right time. I’ve just been through a painful breakup.
  • I need time to think.

After rejection, men also have some trademark responses-

  • She will never find a better man than me.
  • If not being with me makes her happy, so be it. For true love isn’t about boundaries, it’s about flying without restraints.
  • She doesn’t deserve me. And, I deserve someone better.
  • I know it has something to do with that guy who keeps buzzing around her all the time. I will kill him.

Meanwhile, women ponder over the possibilities-

  • He is a great guy – simple, sweet, caring. But, somehow I am not attracted to him.
  • Yes, I know. The other guy is a sort of jerk. Doesn’t even pick up my calls. But, my heart beats only for him. For love is not about reasoning, it’s about passion.
  • Even if I were to enter into a relationship with either of the two, what guarantee do I have that it will be a happy journey and not a painful one?
  • For now, I must weigh my options carefully. When the time is right, I shall decide.

As the story progresses, we experience love, we express affection, we make sacrifices. On the other side of the coin, we spread hate, we suffer anguish, and we evoke betrayal to satiate greed. But eventually, the course of life unfolds just as it is intended, for Destiny is greater than the vision of any man or woman.

My friends, the world is merely a stage for the hopeless romantic, the desperate cynic, the passionate optimist, and the wretched realist. Take your pick!

This article was first published at The Indian Fusion, and then at DTU Times Blog.